The Consolations of Psychotherapy: Why the Question of “Why Did This Happen to Me?” Doesn’t Make Sense

There is no why to suffering, only a how. How did it affect you? How did it change your outlook, … More

Understanding Shame as the Source of Depression: How Learned Hopefulness Can Backfire

With great power comes great responsibility, the degree of which most of us can’t handle. Kennon Sheldon, one of the … More

Existence precedes essence, and proceeds from it. Choosing one’s own way is the only conceivable purpose of being. Yet, through … More

Repeatedly, we’re told that feelings aren’t facts. This usually means that reality doesn’t have to acquiesce to your desires – … More

An ancient proverb reads: Enlightenment isn’t wisdom; it’s the feeling of lightness. In it, one sees the contrast between striving … More

If trauma can become a gift, first understanding it is imperative. Left on her own, with no one to look … More

The passive observer attempts to keep all of his options in front of him. Emphasizing each of his decisions, his … More

Traumatic childhoods can cause people to attempt to flee their lives by cultivating and pursuing fantasies, or utopic lives, believing … More

“We don’t want to become what we are. We want to become a concept, a fantasy, what we should be … More

Masochism is an often misunderstood personality concept. Many tend to think of masochism as the love of being in pain, … More