The state of limerence is most obviously a fantasy, defined by psychologist Dorothy Tennov as the romantic fixation on an … More
Tag: Mental Illness
Can Others Respect You if You Don’t Respect Yourself First?
“How do you expect anyone to respect you when you don’t respect yourself?” is akin to the platitude that you … More
Perfectionism Is a Form of Self-Deception
Perfectionism is the ultimate form of self-deception. Perfectionists tend to fluctuate between believing they’re perfect, resisting the notion that they caused … More
In Defense of the Mainstream Understanding of Borderline Personality Disorder
People are obsessed with causes. And those causes may embody sought after justifications. In a recent article in Psyche about … More
The Dark Side of Denying Our Own Envy
Few emotions are denied as vehemently as envy. Envy implies weakness like few others. Many of our younger patients find … More
Obsessed with Control: Addressing Perfectionism and Codependence
For some, asking for help feels like a threat; the need to do so invariably makes them feel inferior. “Why … More
Why Am I Afraid to Feel My Feelings?
For some, potential, negative experiences, like harm or death, carry the weight of their biggest fears. For others, their own, … More
The Responsibility Dodger: Avoiding the Blame Game
Some people will watch you burn and pretend they had nothing to do with it, or worse, that you did … More
Trauma and Toxic Masculinity
Culture and trauma can synthesize into an obsession with hyper-masculinity. Whether it’s Tony Soprano, any of James Cagney’s early portrayals, … More
The Drama of the Gifted Child
Imagine living a life wherein unless it reached its full potential, you would die disgusted by its existence. I’ve put … More
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