The Consolations of Psychotherapy: Why the Question of “Why Did This Happen to Me?” Doesn’t Make Sense

There is no why to suffering, only a how. How did it affect you? How did it change your outlook, … More

Understanding Shame as the Source of Depression: How Learned Hopefulness Can Backfire

With great power comes great responsibility, the degree of which most of us can’t handle. Kennon Sheldon, one of the … More

Repeatedly, we’re told that feelings aren’t facts. This usually means that reality doesn’t have to acquiesce to your desires – … More

An ancient proverb reads: Enlightenment isn’t wisdom; it’s the feeling of lightness. In it, one sees the contrast between striving … More

If trauma can become a gift, first understanding it is imperative. Left on her own, with no one to look … More

“We don’t want to become what we are. We want to become a concept, a fantasy, what we should be … More

Masochism is an often misunderstood personality concept. Many tend to think of masochism as the love of being in pain, … More

Your brain tells you that worrying is fine because it’s better to be safe than sorry, but ruminations aren’t a … More

What do your flaws mean to you? In our sessions, therapists inquire about the underlying symbolism of our clients’ struggles. … More

Some feel ashamed of themselves for being unable to ask for help, so they expect their partner to anticipate their … More