“I hear what you’re saying, and I can see what I’ve done, but why don’t I feel it?” How many … More
Tag: Mental Illness
The Myth of Self-Love: Why You’ll Probably Never Learn to Love Yourself and Don’t Need to
When I was a kid, I wanted to become the best. As is typical for a child who’s bullied, and … More
Paralyzed by the Fear of Uncertainty: Beginning to Overcome Debilitating Self-Doubt
Anxiety is a bitch. And the beliefs behind it are even worse. When people struggle with Generalized Anxiety or Obsessive … More
Cognitive Grit: Why Resilience is More About Thinking than Doing and How to Develop It
Out of the various mental health related issues I’ve dealt with, rejection sensitivity has to be the most difficult. We’re … More
My OCD Story: The Emotional Costs and Benefits of Being Obsessive
My brain has a tendency to exaggerate. Sometimes, my mind idealizes and makes me believe that some goal I’m working … More
The Hopelessness of Complaining: Why We Excessively Complain and How to Stop
“Now if you know what you’re worth, then go out and get what you’re worth, but you gotta be willing … More
Punishing Myself: Why We’re So Hard on Ourselves and How We Can Stop
Can you recall a time in your life when you let down someone whom you admired? When you did, what … More
The Hindsight Bias and Personalization: Why Our Minds Naturally Prefer Misery to Fear
The Hindsight Bias, according to Kendra Cherry, is “the tendency people have to view events as more predictable than they … More
The Desire for More: Why Most Things Aren’t As Good or As Bad As They Appear and Why It Matters
We idealize success and demonize failure. People, sometimes, ask me how to stop obsessing over both, entering treatment distraught because … More
Coping with Rejection: Why Our Minds Weave Plausible, But Hurtful, Narratives
All of us have a natural tendency to personalize. We see the dyad and interpret it through a causal lens. … More
