When I think of authenticity, the first person that comes to mind is Jimmy Cagney. George C. Scott once remarked…
Shattering the Myth of Confidence: Why the Self-Assured Man You’re Looking for Doesn’t Exist and Why That’s Okay
“Fake it til you make it” is a cliche that’s repeated ad-nauseum, one that most of us latch onto as…
Needing to be Loved: Why It’s Okay to Accept Your Basic Human Necessity
Most of the clients I see struggle with intimacy; they have what are called attachment difficulties. Some of them are…
The Need for Self-Compassion
The idea of self-esteem gained prominence in the 80’s; it was this great need to get children to feel good…
Me vs Me – A Poem About My Internal Struggle of Opposites
The eternal struggle resides Within a place deep down inside Two characters at odds, with much to say One, and…
Living in My Imagination: How Trauma Fosters an Unquenchable Desire for Idealized Love
Throughout our quests for the perfect mate, we frequently find ourselves fantasizing about what that mate would be like: we…
Self-Esteem and Sex Addiction: How Men Use Pornography and Womanizing to Feel Good about Themselves
I frequently write blog posts about the effects of our beliefs on our thoughts, feelings, and actions, exploring the links…
Cinderella Man – A Poem About What Happens When Love is Pushed Away
Striding down the hallway, with a championship in sight The boy enters the ring, to begin an arduous fight The…
Dear Men, Vulnerability is Necessary for Your Mental Health
Most of us were saddened this past week to hear the news of Anthony Bourdain’s passing, not only because he…
A Thought Experiment to Deal With Jealousy
In a highly competitive environment, we tend to struggle with self-esteem. We compare ourselves to one another, fostering resentment and…
