A Fruitless Journey: How We Prevent Ourselves from Being Loved

The Avoidant Attachment Style and Its Affects on Our Ability to Love “Your task is not to seek for love, … More

Can I Ever Overcome Feeling Not Good Enough?

The above quote is taken from the film Cool Runnings, a story about an underdog bobsled team from Jamaica that … More

Learning to Accept Criticism: The Difference Between the Fixed and Growth Mindsets

Criticism is difficult for most. Because of the ways our minds work, we’re prone to distort our images of ourselves … More

Social Anxiety and Social Isolation: How Perfectionism Turns Us Into Recluses

I’ve been writing this blog for over a year. What I love most about it is that it gives me … More

Nothing Left to Prove: Battling Back Against Needing to Be the Best

Much of my life encompasses the strong desire to prove myself. I don’t know whether or not I’m highly competitive … More

Determined by My Past: How We Can Stop Trauma From Ruining Our Lives

How Defenses Shield Us From Harm All of us use psychological defenses; they protect us from unbearable truths about ourselves, … More

Searching for Perfection: Why We Won’t Allow Ourselves to Fall in Love

There’s an old adage, a cliché if you will, which tells us that as long as we can’t love ourselves, … More

So, You Think You Can Dance?

Tonight, I learned how to dance! No, seriously. For the first time in my life, thanks to the recommendation from … More

Flying on the Wings of a Seagull – A Poem about Perfectionism

When I was a boy, I dreamt of becoming an eagle I wanted so desperately to soar into the sky … More