“I hear what you’re saying, and I can see what I’ve done, but why don’t I feel it?” How many … More
Tag: Depression
The Myth of Self-Love: Why You’ll Probably Never Learn to Love Yourself and Don’t Need to
When I was a kid, I wanted to become the best. As is typical for a child who’s bullied, and … More
Cognitive Grit: Why Resilience is More About Thinking than Doing and How to Develop It
Out of the various mental health related issues I’ve dealt with, rejection sensitivity has to be the most difficult. We’re … More
“If He Wanted to He Would”: Why Our Consolations about Rejection are Usually Unhelpful and Wrong
“If he/she wanted to he/she would” is the most overused and misguided phrase in consolation. By saying it, the person … More
The Hopelessness of Complaining: Why We Excessively Complain and How to Stop
“Now if you know what you’re worth, then go out and get what you’re worth, but you gotta be willing … More
The Paradox of Football: How Sports Reveal Our Contradictory Nature
It’s finally Super Bowl day, and my Tampa Bay Buccaneers are one game away from a moment I thought I’d … More
Idealizing Romance: How Our Beliefs About Being Single, Being in Love, and Being Married Contribute to Codependency and Desperation
Interpretations are everything. Being single doesn’t simply mean that you aren’t in a romantic relationship; it often connotes much more. … More
Punishing Myself: Why We’re So Hard on Ourselves and How We Can Stop
Can you recall a time in your life when you let down someone whom you admired? When you did, what … More
The Hindsight Bias and Personalization: Why Our Minds Naturally Prefer Misery to Fear
The Hindsight Bias, according to Kendra Cherry, is “the tendency people have to view events as more predictable than they … More
The Desire for More: Why Most Things Aren’t As Good or As Bad As They Appear and Why It Matters
We idealize success and demonize failure. People, sometimes, ask me how to stop obsessing over both, entering treatment distraught because … More
