I’ve asked myself so many times: should I stop dreaming? It’s sort of a cliché that the young are idealists … More
Tag: Depression
Reframing Perfectionism: Knowing the Difference Between Absolute and Relative Perfection Can Alleviate Your Inner Struggles
One of the questions I get asked most frequently is: what can I do about my perfectionism? People understand where … More
Emotional Reasoning: What Psychology and Philosophy Sometimes Get Wrong about the Utility of Our Emotions
“Nothing is more usual in philosophy, and even in common life, than to talk of the combat of passion and … More
The Untraveled Road: How Killing My Dream Made Me Much Happier
Lately, I’ve been coming to terms with one of my major professional decisions. For years, I went back and forth … More
I’m Not Enough: Why Feeling Like You’re Good Enough Shouldn’t Be Your Only Goal
“I hear what you’re saying, and I can see what I’ve done, but why don’t I feel it?” How many … More
The Myth of Self-Love: Why You’ll Probably Never Learn to Love Yourself and Don’t Need to
When I was a kid, I wanted to become the best. As is typical for a child who’s bullied, and … More
Cognitive Grit: Why Resilience is More About Thinking than Doing and How to Develop It
Out of the various mental health related issues I’ve dealt with, rejection sensitivity has to be the most difficult. We’re … More
“If He Wanted to He Would”: Why Our Consolations about Rejection are Usually Unhelpful and Wrong
“If he/she wanted to he/she would” is the most overused and misguided phrase in consolation. By saying it, the person … More
The Hopelessness of Complaining: Why We Excessively Complain and How to Stop
“Now if you know what you’re worth, then go out and get what you’re worth, but you gotta be willing … More
The Paradox of Football: How Sports Reveal Our Contradictory Nature
It’s finally Super Bowl day, and my Tampa Bay Buccaneers are one game away from a moment I thought I’d … More
