Your brain tells you that worrying is fine because it’s better to be safe than sorry, but ruminations aren’t a … More
Tag: Anxiety
The Vulnerability of Asking for Help and Why So Many Struggle With It
Some feel ashamed of themselves for being unable to ask for help, so they expect their partner to anticipate their … More
Cultivating Both/And Thinking in Love: Can You Have Both Passion and Security?
People tend to believe that, at some point, they have to settle. To them, love is either fire and fury, … More
Psychotherapy Isn’t a Cure, But It Can Be Helpful in Multiple Ways
My life will always be punctuated by moments in which I feel like a failure, probably more so than the … More
Insecurely Attached in My Relationship: How Picking the Safe Romantic Partner Can Backfire
Intimacy can be avoided in complete darkness or in the blazing light of romance. The avoidant attachment style, marked by … More
When You Can’t Trust Your Elders: Understanding Oppositional Defiant Disorder
I was an extremely difficult kid. You can chalk most of it up to genetics, since I can’t really recall … More
Acknowledging the Limits of Psychotherapy, Even if You’re an Expert
In a world in which branding and marketing determine your ability to become successful, you have to remain humble. This … More
Why Psychotherapists Don’t Give Advice
People often enter treatment searching for wisdom, searching for advice that hasn’t already been given. In the popular HBO show … More
Why We’re So Defensive and How to Stop
We make significant mistakes when we’re protecting ourselves. Defensiveness, self-aggrandizement, bragging, deflecting, perfectionism; whatever you want to label it, we … More
When Self-Help Turns Toxic: Why We Can’t Always Be Rational
In Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, there’s a process labeled cognitive restructuring, wherein beliefs are explored in a systemic manner to confirm … More
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