“I hear what you’re saying, and I can see what I’ve done, but why don’t I feel it?” How many … More
Tag: Anxiety
Paralyzed by the Fear of Uncertainty: Beginning to Overcome Debilitating Self-Doubt
Anxiety is a bitch. And the beliefs behind it are even worse. When people struggle with Generalized Anxiety or Obsessive … More
“If He Wanted to He Would”: Why Our Consolations about Rejection are Usually Unhelpful and Wrong
“If he/she wanted to he/she would” is the most overused and misguided phrase in consolation. By saying it, the person … More
My OCD Story: The Emotional Costs and Benefits of Being Obsessive
My brain has a tendency to exaggerate. Sometimes, my mind idealizes and makes me believe that some goal I’m working … More
The Hopelessness of Complaining: Why We Excessively Complain and How to Stop
“Now if you know what you’re worth, then go out and get what you’re worth, but you gotta be willing … More
Punishing Myself: Why We’re So Hard on Ourselves and How We Can Stop
Can you recall a time in your life when you let down someone whom you admired? When you did, what … More
The Hindsight Bias and Personalization: Why Our Minds Naturally Prefer Misery to Fear
The Hindsight Bias, according to Kendra Cherry, is “the tendency people have to view events as more predictable than they … More
The Desire for More: Why Most Things Aren’t As Good or As Bad As They Appear and Why It Matters
We idealize success and demonize failure. People, sometimes, ask me how to stop obsessing over both, entering treatment distraught because … More
Understanding Narcissism: How You Can Paralyze a Bully by Knowing His Cognitive Framework
In the Guy Ritche film Revolver, the protagonist, Jake, goes on a journey of self-discovery, learning about the complex facets … More
Meaning and Self-Esteem: How Low Self-Esteem Contributes to Chronic Boredom and an Inability to Find Your Purpose
So much of my life was wasted. Growing up with an anxiety disorder, or several, made me want to run … More
