Perfectionism is the ultimate form of self-deception. Perfectionists tend to fluctuate between believing they’re perfect, resisting the notion that they caused … More
Tag: Perfectionism
Psychotherapy Isn’t Always About Becoming Better
Psychotherapy is the process of acclimating one to the ordinary. Many, however, approach treatment in the opposite way, looking to psychology … More
The Cognitive Traps of Perfectionism
While each of us are the centers of our own universes, sometimes, our judgments of ourselves should be de-emphasized, especially … More
Obsessed with Control: Addressing Perfectionism and Codependence
For some, asking for help feels like a threat; the need to do so invariably makes them feel inferior. “Why … More
Obsessed with Suffering and Striving: How Reframing My Depression Eased My Pain
An ancient proverb reads: Enlightenment isn’t wisdom; it’s the feeling of lightness. In it, one sees the contrast between striving … More
Learning How to Listen to and Tolerate Your Negative Feelings
Traumatic childhoods can cause people to attempt to flee their lives by cultivating and pursuing fantasies, or utopic lives, believing … More
The Perfectionist’s Shame: Why the Difference Between Responsibility and Blame Matters
“We don’t want to become what we are. We want to become a concept, a fantasy, what we should be … More
How Your Anxiety Lies to You
Your brain tells you that worrying is fine because it’s better to be safe than sorry, but ruminations aren’t a … More
A Therapist’s Approach to Helping You Learn to Accept Your Flaws
What do your flaws mean to you? In our sessions, therapists inquire about the underlying symbolism of our clients’ struggles. … More
The Vulnerability of Asking for Help and Why So Many Struggle With It
Some feel ashamed of themselves for being unable to ask for help, so they expect their partner to anticipate their … More
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