I’m Not Enough: Why Feeling Like You’re Good Enough Shouldn’t Be Your Only Goal

“I hear what you’re saying, and I can see what I’ve done, but why don’t I feel it?” How many … More

The Myth of Self-Love: Why You’ll Probably Never Learn to Love Yourself and Don’t Need to

When I was a kid, I wanted to become the best. As is typical for a child who’s bullied, and … More

Coping with Rejection: Why Our Minds Weave Plausible, But Hurtful, Narratives

All of us have a natural tendency to personalize. We see the dyad and interpret it through a causal lens. … More

Meaning and Self-Esteem: How Low Self-Esteem Contributes to Chronic Boredom and an Inability to Find Your Purpose

So much of my life was wasted. Growing up with an anxiety disorder, or several, made me want to run … More

Genuine Humility: Why Accepting Our Flaws Also Requires a Cultural Shift

In common language, humility is defined as being the state of having a low assessment of one’s value. Considered to … More

Am I a Bad Person?: Examining the Importance of Knowing the Difference Between Guilt and Shame

I once asked someone I knew what was likelier, that she happened to have possessed the most undesirable qualities or … More

Displaced Anger: How We Can Stop Blaming Others for Our Negative Thoughts and Emotions

If maturity is anything, it’s a mastery of one’s emotions. The other day, someone told me a story about how … More

Hero Worship As Self-Hatred: How Admiration Can Reveal Your Self-Esteem

“I wish people would love everybody else the way they love me. It would be a better world.” -Muhammed Ali … More

The Jaws of Certainty: How Our Low Self-Esteem Pushes Love Away

Evidence can be tricky. We often think of science as a purely objective endeavor, supported by the analysis of an … More

Bursting the Bubble of Inadequacy: Shifting Our Distorted Beliefs to Love Ourselves

We fear our thoughts more so than reality. The cognitive model of psychotherapy posits that our ideas about ourselves, others, … More