When Self-Help Turns Toxic: Why We Can’t Always Be Rational

In Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, there’s a process labeled cognitive restructuring, wherein beliefs are explored in a systemic manner to confirm … More

Obsessed with Status and Popularity: An Exploration of Cultural Illness

Love only matters to us if we accept it. Like Jay Gatsby, most of us find ourselves in the throes … More

For When You’re Feeling Shame

Shame compounds. Of all of the negative emotions, shame is the worst. Anxiety subsides when we avert a threat. Sadness … More

Being Great Isn’t That Great: The Inevitable Distorted Thinking Involved in Success and High Achievement

Why are we chronically unsatisfied? Someone close to me once told me that she wanted to have everything she wanted … More

Do I Really Have to Love Myself Before I Can Love Others?: Against the Existential Ideal

Balancing what you can accomplish today with what you’ve done in the distant past is a challenging feat. All the … More

Various Types of Manipulative Behavior in Relationships

I was recently interviewed for Well + Good (https://www.wellandgood.com/types-manipulative-behavior/) on manipulative behavior and wanted to expand on several versions of … More

Being like Ali: How the World’s Greatest Boxer Can Help Us Become Less Reactive When Arguing

I write blogs because I can’t write a book. I can’t write a book because I can’t imagine having spent … More

I’m Not Enough: Why Feeling Like You’re Good Enough Shouldn’t Be Your Only Goal

“I hear what you’re saying, and I can see what I’ve done, but why don’t I feel it?” How many … More

The Myth of Self-Love: Why You’ll Probably Never Learn to Love Yourself and Don’t Need to

When I was a kid, I wanted to become the best. As is typical for a child who’s bullied, and … More

Coping with Rejection: Why Our Minds Weave Plausible, But Hurtful, Narratives

All of us have a natural tendency to personalize. We see the dyad and interpret it through a causal lens. … More