In Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, there’s a process labeled cognitive restructuring, wherein beliefs are explored in a systemic manner to confirm … More
Tag: Self-Esteem
Obsessed with Status and Popularity: An Exploration of Cultural Illness
Love only matters to us if we accept it. Like Jay Gatsby, most of us find ourselves in the throes … More
For When You’re Feeling Shame
Shame compounds. Of all of the negative emotions, shame is the worst. Anxiety subsides when we avert a threat. Sadness … More
Being Great Isn’t That Great: The Inevitable Distorted Thinking Involved in Success and High Achievement
Why are we chronically unsatisfied? Someone close to me once told me that she wanted to have everything she wanted … More
Do I Really Have to Love Myself Before I Can Love Others?: Against the Existential Ideal
Balancing what you can accomplish today with what you’ve done in the distant past is a challenging feat. All the … More
Various Types of Manipulative Behavior in Relationships
I was recently interviewed for Well + Good (https://www.wellandgood.com/types-manipulative-behavior/) on manipulative behavior and wanted to expand on several versions of … More
Being like Ali: How the World’s Greatest Boxer Can Help Us Become Less Reactive When Arguing
I write blogs because I can’t write a book. I can’t write a book because I can’t imagine having spent … More
I’m Not Enough: Why Feeling Like You’re Good Enough Shouldn’t Be Your Only Goal
“I hear what you’re saying, and I can see what I’ve done, but why don’t I feel it?” How many … More
The Myth of Self-Love: Why You’ll Probably Never Learn to Love Yourself and Don’t Need to
When I was a kid, I wanted to become the best. As is typical for a child who’s bullied, and … More
Coping with Rejection: Why Our Minds Weave Plausible, But Hurtful, Narratives
All of us have a natural tendency to personalize. We see the dyad and interpret it through a causal lens. … More