Chronic defensiveness, like chronic avoidance, isn’t a victimless crime. In our self-protected cocoons, sheltering us from the exaggerated slings and…
Trauma and Toxic Masculinity
Culture and trauma can synthesize into an obsession with hyper-masculinity. Whether it’s Tony Soprano, any of James Cagney’s early portrayals,…
The Drama of the Gifted Child
Imagine living a life wherein unless it reached its full potential, you would die disgusted by its existence. I’ve put…
The Role of Distrust in Narcissism and the Spread of Misinformation
Being seen is often scarier than being invisible. Once perceived, you open yourself up to the possibility of falling into…
Vulnerability Can Be a Strength: Why Attachment Styles Matter
Perfectionists view their worlds in absolutes. Their sense of morality and their expectations apply to all environments, all of the…
The Divided World: Challenging Anti-Psychiatry
We love fighting demons. And nowhere is that more apparent than in the current geo-political sphere. Some of us fight…
The Complicated Answer to Whether Therapists Should Give Advice
People don’t need others to reason for them; but, often, they need someone to reason with them. Individualism permeates psychotherapy…
Therapy Judges, But Doesn’t Shame
Some of us live in the world of Platonic forms. The ancient Greek philosopher Plato believed that the world of…
What Psychoanalysis and CBT Can Teach Us about Battling Misinformation
Our understanding of the mind dating back to Freud tells us the same story repeatedly: we use defenses, or “biases”…
Running from Fear and Self-Doubt
You can’t evade the profound uncertainty of love, and, more importantly, of life. Those with avoidant personalities fall into two…
