When you already believe you’re terrible and worthless, it’s easy to reinforce your self-conception. It’s common knowledge that bullies prey … More
Tag: Narcissism
The Entitled Martyr: How to Spot a Hidden Narcissist
Pathological narcissists are considered to be boastful, aggressive, and domineering, therefore easy to distinguish. Most of us believe that we … More
The Love-Bomber’s Con: Why Already Believing You’re Special Can Make You His Victim
For a con to work, it’s best for it to have already been accepted before the con-artist entered the room. … More
Why We’re So Defensive and How to Stop
We make significant mistakes when we’re protecting ourselves. Defensiveness, self-aggrandizement, bragging, deflecting, perfectionism; whatever you want to label it, we … More
Am I Just an Asshole?: The Difference Between Autism and Narcissism and Why it Matters
You’ll have to be really honest with yourself about this one. Over my short career, I’ve had several patients who … More
Understanding Narcissism: How You Can Paralyze a Bully by Knowing His Cognitive Framework
In the Guy Ritche film Revolver, the protagonist, Jake, goes on a journey of self-discovery, learning about the complex facets … More
Overcoming the Fear of Conflict: Why Standing Up to Narcissists and Bullies is Easier than You Believe
Most of us are terrified of conflicts. And much of our lives are spent avoiding them. If possible, we’ll end … More
Why the Strong Men Are Cowards
“Intolerance of ambiguity is the mark of an authoritarian personality.” -Theodor Adorno Most of the time, all of us are scared, but … More
Journey to the Rainbow’s End: Understanding the Perfectionist’s Beliefs and Goals
In the recently released documentary, David Foster: Off the Record, David Foster’s daughter noted that Foster, a prominent musical producer, … More
Propelled by Trauma: The Dark Side of High Achievers
Trauma is a conquerer. It has a way of subduing one and keeping them in her captivity for a lifetime. … More
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