Intimacy can be avoided in complete darkness or in the blazing light of romance. The avoidant attachment style, marked by … More
Tag: Relationships
How Our Philosophies of Love Become Barriers to It
“If he loves me, he’ll love me unconditionally.” “If she loves me, she’ll want to become the best version of … More
Envy Addiction: How Using Social Media to Make Others Jealous Makes Everyone Miserable
It seems like you can now be anyone you want to be. In the past decade, people you wouldn’t have … More
Idealizing Romance: How Our Beliefs About Being Single, Being in Love, and Being Married Contribute to Codependency and Desperation
Interpretations are everything. Being single doesn’t simply mean that you aren’t in a romantic relationship; it often connotes much more. … More
Coping with Rejection: Why Our Minds Weave Plausible, But Hurtful, Narratives
All of us have a natural tendency to personalize. We see the dyad and interpret it through a causal lens. … More
Philosophy in Love: How Philosophy Affects Your Love-Life, Even if You Don’t Know It
Whether you know it or not, philosophy affects all of your relationships and your thoughts about them. We often think … More
If Dating Isn’t Working Out, Maybe You’re Just Self-Absorbed
People’s rigid expectations often make relationships, especially romantic ones, fairly difficult. In dating, there’s often a mismatch between one party, … More
Why Do I Always End Up in Toxic Relationships?: Understanding the Thought Patterns of Mistreated Partners
A girl I once knew, who was involved in a physically abuse relationship at some point in her past, told … More
Unspoken Feelings: Masculinity and Stifled Expression
I had a session over the weekend with a client whose brother was diagnosed with leukemia. In it, she told … More
Why Do We Create?: Exploring the Link Between Creativity and Intimacy
“The human being cannot live in a condition of emptiness for very long: if he is not growing toward something, … More
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