The passive observer attempts to keep all of his options in front of him. Emphasizing each of his decisions, his…
Learning How to Listen to and Tolerate Your Negative Feelings
Traumatic childhoods can cause people to attempt to flee their lives by cultivating and pursuing fantasies, or utopic lives, believing…
The Perfectionist’s Shame: Why the Difference Between Responsibility and Blame Matters
“We don’t want to become what we are. We want to become a concept, a fantasy, what we should be…
Why the Person You Love Won’t Leave an Abusive Relationship
Masochism is an often misunderstood personality concept. Many tend to think of masochism as the love of being in pain,…
How Your Anxiety Lies to You
Your brain tells you that worrying is fine because it’s better to be safe than sorry, but ruminations aren’t a…
A Therapist’s Approach to Helping You Learn to Accept Your Flaws
What do your flaws mean to you? In our sessions, therapists inquire about the underlying symbolism of our clients’ struggles.…
The Vulnerability of Asking for Help and Why So Many Struggle With It
Some feel ashamed of themselves for being unable to ask for help, so they expect their partner to anticipate their…
Cultivating Both/And Thinking in Love: Can You Have Both Passion and Security?
People tend to believe that, at some point, they have to settle. To them, love is either fire and fury,…
Narcissistic Envy: Why Narcissists Abuse Their Victims
When you already believe you’re terrible and worthless, it’s easy to reinforce your self-conception. It’s common knowledge that bullies prey…
Psychotherapy Isn’t a Cure, But It Can Be Helpful in Multiple Ways
My life will always be punctuated by moments in which I feel like a failure, probably more so than the…
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