When you already believe you’re terrible and worthless, it’s easy to reinforce your self-conception. It’s common knowledge that bullies prey … More
Tag: Trauma
Overcoming the Fear of Conflict: Why Standing Up to Narcissists and Bullies is Easier than You Believe
Most of us are terrified of conflicts. And much of our lives are spent avoiding them. If possible, we’ll end … More
Propelled by Trauma: The Dark Side of High Achievers
Trauma is a conquerer. It has a way of subduing one and keeping them in her captivity for a lifetime. … More
The Victim of Trauma: How Overcoming Tragedy Entails Being Both a Victim and a Survivor
As therapists, we often speak of beliefs and perspectives and their influence on our thoughts, feelings, and actions. Where both … More
Sometimes, You Have to Pick a Side: In Support of Black Lives Matter
Children see the world through a black and white lens, through which they perceive duality within the world, wherein good … More
Needing to Be Loved: Why It’s Okay to Accept Your Basic Human Necessity
Fear of Being Needy Most of the clients I see struggle with intimacy; they have what are called attachment difficulties. … More
When Ure Heart Turns Cold: Reclaiming Your Life After Trauma
“When ure heart turns cold, it causes your soul 2 freeze Spreads throughout your spirit, like a ruthless feeling disease” … More
The Ethics of Violence: Why Trauma Doesn’t Excuse Brutality
In a 1984 conversation, the notable black author and social critic, James Baldwin, and black feminist writer and poet, Audre … More
Determined by My Past: How We Can Stop Trauma From Ruining Our Lives
How Defenses Shield Us From Harm All of us use psychological defenses; they protect us from unbearable truths about ourselves, … More
To Hell and Back: My Journey Through Therapy
The following article was originally written for a blogger named The Bipolar Writer. This version is an extension of the original, … More