Most of us are terrified of conflicts. And much of our lives are spent avoiding them. If possible, we’ll end … More
Tag: Trauma
Propelled by Trauma: The Dark Side of High Achievers
Trauma is a conquerer. It has a way of subduing one and keeping them in her captivity for a lifetime. … More
The Victim of Trauma: How Overcoming Tragedy Entails Being Both a Victim and a Survivor
As therapists, we often speak of beliefs and perspectives and their influence on our thoughts, feelings, and actions. Where both … More
Sometimes, You Have to Pick a Side: In Support of Black Lives Matter
Children see the world through a black and white lens, through which they perceive duality within the world, wherein good … More
Needing to Be Loved: Why It’s Okay to Accept Your Basic Human Necessity
Fear of Being Needy Most of the clients I see struggle with intimacy; they have what are called attachment difficulties. … More
When Ure Heart Turns Cold: Reclaiming Your Life After Trauma
“When ure heart turns cold, it causes your soul 2 freeze Spreads throughout your spirit, like a ruthless feeling disease” … More
The Ethics of Violence: Why Trauma Doesn’t Excuse Brutality
In a 1984 conversation, the notable black author and social critic, James Baldwin, and black feminist writer and poet, Audre … More
Determined by My Past: How We Can Stop Trauma From Ruining Our Lives
How Defenses Shield Us From Harm All of us use psychological defenses; they protect us from unbearable truths about ourselves, … More
To Hell and Back: My Journey Through Therapy
The following article was originally written for a blogger named The Bipolar Writer. This version is an extension of the original, … More
Seeking the Superheroes Within: How We Vanquish Our Traumatic Pasts
“Like superheroes, supernormals dodge bullets and leap over tall buildings in their way when so many other people around them—even … More