Overcoming the Fear of Conflict: Why Standing Up to Narcissists and Bullies is Easier than You Believe

Most of us are terrified of conflicts. And much of our lives are spent avoiding them. If possible, we’ll end … More

Propelled by Trauma: The Dark Side of High Achievers

Trauma is a conquerer. It has a way of subduing one and keeping them in her captivity for a lifetime. … More

The Victim of Trauma: How Overcoming Tragedy Entails Being Both a Victim and a Survivor

As therapists, we often speak of beliefs and perspectives and their influence on our thoughts, feelings, and actions. Where both … More

Sometimes, You Have to Pick a Side: In Support of Black Lives Matter

Children see the world through a black and white lens, through which they perceive duality within the world, wherein good … More

Needing to Be Loved: Why It’s Okay to Accept Your Basic Human Necessity

Fear of Being Needy Most of the clients I see struggle with intimacy; they have what are called attachment difficulties. … More

When Ure Heart Turns Cold: Reclaiming Your Life After Trauma

“When ure heart turns cold, it causes your soul 2 freeze Spreads throughout your spirit, like a ruthless feeling disease” … More

The Ethics of Violence: Why Trauma Doesn’t Excuse Brutality

In a 1984 conversation, the notable black author and social critic, James Baldwin, and black feminist writer and poet, Audre … More

Determined by My Past: How We Can Stop Trauma From Ruining Our Lives

How Defenses Shield Us From Harm All of us use psychological defenses; they protect us from unbearable truths about ourselves, … More

To Hell and Back: My Journey Through Therapy

The following article was originally written for a blogger named The Bipolar Writer. This version is an extension of the original, … More

Seeking the Superheroes Within: How We Vanquish Our Traumatic Pasts

“Like superheroes, supernormals dodge bullets and leap over tall buildings in their way when so many other people around them—even … More