When you already believe you’re terrible and worthless, it’s easy to reinforce your self-conception. It’s common knowledge that bullies prey … More
Tag: Depression
Psychotherapy Isn’t a Cure, But It Can Be Helpful in Multiple Ways
My life will always be punctuated by moments in which I feel like a failure, probably more so than the … More
The Internal Critic: When Evidence of Your Worth Isn’t Enough
Ultimately, the ability to take risks and tolerate the uncertainty that accompanies them is the point of therapy. When struggling … More
When You Can’t Trust Your Elders: Understanding Oppositional Defiant Disorder
I was an extremely difficult kid. You can chalk most of it up to genetics, since I can’t really recall … More
The Importance of Humility: Why You Don’t Need to Develop Self-Esteem
On an episode of our podcast (linked below), philosopher Mark White spoke with us about the superhero Thor, and the … More
The Internal Guilt-Tripper: Why You’re Partially Responsible for Some of Your Most Negative Feelings
Internal pressure is often externalized and disavowed. Most of us have a strong tendency to blame others for how we’re … More
Acknowledging the Limits of Psychotherapy, Even if You’re an Expert
In a world in which branding and marketing determine your ability to become successful, you have to remain humble. This … More
Why Haters Will Always Hate and You’ll Never Be Liked by Everyone
No matter how brilliant and beautiful you are or become, you will never silence all of your critics. We want … More
Why Psychotherapists Don’t Give Advice
People often enter treatment searching for wisdom, searching for advice that hasn’t already been given. In the popular HBO show … More
Why We’re So Defensive and How to Stop
We make significant mistakes when we’re protecting ourselves. Defensiveness, self-aggrandizement, bragging, deflecting, perfectionism; whatever you want to label it, we … More