Perfectionism Is a Form of Self-Deception

Perfectionism is the ultimate form of self-deception. Perfectionists tend to fluctuate between believing they’re perfect, resisting the notion that they caused … More

In Defense of the Mainstream Understanding of Borderline Personality Disorder

People are obsessed with causes. And those causes may embody sought after justifications. In a recent article in Psyche about … More

The Dark Side of Denying Our Own Envy

Few emotions are denied as vehemently as envy. Envy implies weakness like few others. Many of our younger patients find … More

Obsessed with Control: Addressing Perfectionism and Codependence

For some, asking for help feels like a threat; the need to do so invariably makes them feel inferior. “Why … More

Why Am I Afraid to Feel My Feelings?

For some, potential, negative experiences, like harm or death, carry the weight of their biggest fears. For others, their own, … More

The Responsibility Dodger: Avoiding the Blame Game

Some people will watch you burn and pretend they had nothing to do with it, or worse, that you did … More

Trauma and Toxic Masculinity

Culture and trauma can synthesize into an obsession with hyper-masculinity. Whether it’s Tony Soprano, any of James Cagney’s early portrayals, … More

The Drama of the Gifted Child

Imagine living a life wherein unless it reached its full potential, you would die disgusted by its existence. I’ve put … More

Vulnerability Can Be a Strength: Why Attachment Styles Matter

Perfectionists view their worlds in absolutes. Their sense of morality and their expectations apply to all environments, all of the … More

The Divided World: Challenging Anti-Psychiatry

We love fighting demons. And nowhere is that more apparent than in the current geo-political sphere. Some of us fight … More