People don’t need others to reason for them; but, often, they need someone to reason with them. Individualism permeates psychotherapy … More
Tag: Mental Illness
Therapy Judges, But Doesn’t Shame
Some of us live in the world of Platonic forms. The ancient Greek philosopher Plato believed that the world of … More
Running from Fear and Self-Doubt
You can’t evade the profound uncertainty of love, and, more importantly, of life. Those with avoidant personalities fall into two … More
The Drug of Self-Love
We’re notorious overthinkers, creating meaning out of every detail encountered. Yet, our self-concepts are more burdensome than exhilarating, causing us … More
Fostering Dignity: How Tyranny Creates People-Pleasing Behavior
Sometimes, you’re just someone who has nothing to say. The avoidant personality type is marked by extreme shyness, fear of … More
Don’t You Dare Pity Me!: Why Some Refuse to Accept Sympathy
Trauma begets rage, and rage veils vulnerability. Many view sympathy with scorn, refusing to be cast under its spotlight. Therapists … More
The Consolations of Psychotherapy: Why the Question of “Why Did This Happen to Me?” Doesn’t Make Sense
There is no why to suffering, only a how. How did it affect you? How did it change your outlook, … More
Understanding Shame as the Source of Depression: How Learned Hopefulness Can Backfire
With great power comes great responsibility, the degree of which most of us can’t handle. Kennon Sheldon, one of the … More
Your Feelings Don’t Always Matter and That’s a Good Thing
Repeatedly, we’re told that feelings aren’t facts. This usually means that reality doesn’t have to acquiesce to your desires – … More
Obsessed with Suffering and Striving: How Reframing My Depression Eased My Pain
An ancient proverb reads: Enlightenment isn’t wisdom; it’s the feeling of lightness. In it, one sees the contrast between striving … More
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