“If he/she wanted to he/she would” is the most overused and misguided phrase in consolation. By saying it, the person … More
Tag: Dating
Idealizing Romance: How Our Beliefs About Being Single, Being in Love, and Being Married Contribute to Codependency and Desperation
Interpretations are everything. Being single doesn’t simply mean that you aren’t in a romantic relationship; it often connotes much more. … More
Coping with Rejection: Why Our Minds Weave Plausible, But Hurtful, Narratives
All of us have a natural tendency to personalize. We see the dyad and interpret it through a causal lens. … More
Philosophy in Love: How Philosophy Affects Your Love-Life, Even if You Don’t Know It
Whether you know it or not, philosophy affects all of your relationships and your thoughts about them. We often think … More
If Dating Isn’t Working Out, Maybe You’re Just Self-Absorbed
People’s rigid expectations often make relationships, especially romantic ones, fairly difficult. In dating, there’s often a mismatch between one party, … More
The False Beliefs of the Grass is Greener Syndrome: Why Settling Can Be Good for You
On the episode “Mind and the Matter” of The Twilight Zone, the protagonist, Archibald Beechcrot, a misanthrope, wills humanity’s disappearance. … More
Why Do I Always End Up in Toxic Relationships?: Understanding the Thought Patterns of Mistreated Partners
A girl I once knew, who was involved in a physically abuse relationship at some point in her past, told … More
Self-Sabotage in Dating: How We Erect the Barriers that Keep Love At Bay
A few years ago, I began a relationship with a girl who seemed interested in dating me, but asked if … More
Needing to Be Loved: Why It’s Okay to Accept Your Basic Human Necessity
Fear of Being Needy Most of the clients I see struggle with intimacy; they have what are called attachment difficulties. … More
The Power We Give Away: The Importance of Defining Yourself
The World of Dating I was going through a break-up when I was in therapy with Eileen. I told her … More
