People tend to believe that, at some point, they have to settle. To them, love is either fire and fury, … More
Tag: Dating
Insecurely Attached in My Relationship: How Picking the Safe Romantic Partner Can Backfire
Intimacy can be avoided in complete darkness or in the blazing light of romance. The avoidant attachment style, marked by … More
The Love-Bomber’s Con: Why Already Believing You’re Special Can Make You His Victim
For a con to work, it’s best for it to have already been accepted before the con-artist entered the room. … More
Taming Perfectionism: Why a Sense of Entitlement is Based on Fear
Have you ever heard of mental filtering? Do you recall any experiences of it? How is the mind able to … More
“If He Wanted to He Would”: Why Our Consolations about Rejection are Usually Unhelpful and Wrong
“If he/she wanted to he/she would” is the most overused and misguided phrase in consolation. By saying it, the person … More
Idealizing Romance: How Our Beliefs About Being Single, Being in Love, and Being Married Contribute to Codependency and Desperation
Interpretations are everything. Being single doesn’t simply mean that you aren’t in a romantic relationship; it often connotes much more. … More
Coping with Rejection: Why Our Minds Weave Plausible, But Hurtful, Narratives
All of us have a natural tendency to personalize. We see the dyad and interpret it through a causal lens. … More
Philosophy in Love: How Philosophy Affects Your Love-Life, Even if You Don’t Know It
Whether you know it or not, philosophy affects all of your relationships and your thoughts about them. We often think … More
If Dating Isn’t Working Out, Maybe You’re Just Self-Absorbed
People’s rigid expectations often make relationships, especially romantic ones, fairly difficult. In dating, there’s often a mismatch between one party, … More
The False Beliefs of the Grass is Greener Syndrome: Why Settling Can Be Good for You
On the episode “Mind and the Matter” of The Twilight Zone, the protagonist, Archibald Beechcrot, a misanthrope, wills humanity’s disappearance. … More