No matter how brilliant and beautiful you are or become, you will never silence all of your critics. We want … More
Tag: Growth
How Our Philosophies of Love Become Barriers to It
“If he loves me, he’ll love me unconditionally.” “If she loves me, she’ll want to become the best version of … More
Why We’re So Defensive and How to Stop
We make significant mistakes when we’re protecting ourselves. Defensiveness, self-aggrandizement, bragging, deflecting, perfectionism; whatever you want to label it, we … More
A CBT Approach to Understanding and Dealing with Anger
Anger is a threat; anger results from threats; anger is righteous; anger is destructive; anger is defensive; anger is hopeful; … More
The Downside of Pride: How We Use Ambition to Mask Vulnerability and Weakness
Ambition and vulnerability struggle to co-exist. The more successful and neurotic you are, the less likely you’re willing to exhibit … More
Battling the Demon of Idealism: Why You Don’t Have to Be Obsessed with Becoming Great
I’m not an idealist. I don’t consider myself to be an amazing therapist, writer, or human. To possess any of … More
Why Success Often Leaves You Feeling Empty
They tell you to stay hungry, but what if there really isn’t any other choice? I don’t know whether you … More
Various Types of Manipulative Behavior in Relationships
I was recently interviewed for Well + Good (https://www.wellandgood.com/types-manipulative-behavior/) on manipulative behavior and wanted to expand on several versions of … More
Stuck in Indecision: Why Are We Terrified of Making Choices?
I spent most of my life living in fear. As a kid, I was terrified of the dark and sleeping … More
Everyday Masochism: Why Are We Workaholics?
Masochism is self-discipline run amok. Human nature seems to reside in extremes. I don’t know why, but when we do … More
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