Is Loving Yourself Possible?

Self-love is a mask for self-importance; just consider the time one spends on trying to cultivate it. The two most … More

Obsessed with Control: Addressing Perfectionism and Codependence

For some, asking for help feels like a threat; the need to do so invariably makes them feel inferior. “Why … More

Addicted to Hope

In his autobiography, Based on a True Story, comedian Norm Macdonald details his years long gambling addiction, which cost him … More

The Responsibility Dodger: Avoiding the Blame Game

Some people will watch you burn and pretend they had nothing to do with it, or worse, that you did … More

The Dependent Personality and the Savior Therapist

Humans, like animals in pain, recoil from any perceived threat by hiding. Rejection sensitivity, common to various forms of personality … More

The Therapist’s Shame: Understanding Projective Identification and Countertransference

Chronic defensiveness, like chronic avoidance, isn’t a victimless crime. In our self-protected cocoons, sheltering us from the exaggerated slings and … More

The Drama of the Gifted Child

Imagine living a life wherein unless it reached its full potential, you would die disgusted by its existence. I’ve put … More

The Role of Distrust in Narcissism and the Spread of Misinformation

Being seen is often scarier than being invisible. Once perceived, you open yourself up to the possibility of falling into … More

Therapy Judges, But Doesn’t Shame

Some of us live in the world of Platonic forms. The ancient Greek philosopher Plato believed that the world of … More

The Drug of Self-Love

We’re notorious overthinkers, creating meaning out of every detail encountered. Yet, our self-concepts are more burdensome than exhilarating, causing us … More