We’re notorious overthinkers, creating meaning out of every detail encountered. Yet, our self-concepts are more burdensome than exhilarating, causing us … More
Tag: Psychology
The Power of Delusions
Self-importance is akin to cocaine. Social Psychologist David Myers discovered what he labeled “The Lake Wobegon Effect.” Based on a … More
Knowing Why to Quit
My rigidity is a gift and a curse. On the one hand, I’m determined; on the hand, I’m quite stubborn. … More
Fostering Dignity: How Tyranny Creates People-Pleasing Behavior
Sometimes, you’re just someone who has nothing to say. The avoidant personality type is marked by extreme shyness, fear of … More
Don’t You Dare Pity Me!: Why Some Refuse to Accept Sympathy
Trauma begets rage, and rage veils vulnerability. Many view sympathy with scorn, refusing to be cast under its spotlight. Therapists … More
The Consolations of Psychotherapy: Why the Question of “Why Did This Happen to Me?” Doesn’t Make Sense
There is no why to suffering, only a how. How did it affect you? How did it change your outlook, … More
Understanding Shame as the Source of Depression: How Learned Hopefulness Can Backfire
With great power comes great responsibility, the degree of which most of us can’t handle. Kennon Sheldon, one of the … More
The Importance of Choosing Your Values and Why You Often Feel Stuck
Existence precedes essence, and proceeds from it. Choosing one’s own way is the only conceivable purpose of being. Yet, through … More
Your Feelings Don’t Always Matter and That’s a Good Thing
Repeatedly, we’re told that feelings aren’t facts. This usually means that reality doesn’t have to acquiesce to your desires – … More
Obsessed with Suffering and Striving: How Reframing My Depression Eased My Pain
An ancient proverb reads: Enlightenment isn’t wisdom; it’s the feeling of lightness. In it, one sees the contrast between striving … More
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