Battling the Demon of Idealism: Why You Don’t Have to Be Obsessed with Becoming Great

I’m not an idealist. I don’t consider myself to be an amazing therapist, writer, or human. To possess any of … More

Why Success Often Leaves You Feeling Empty

They tell you to stay hungry, but what if there really isn’t any other choice? I don’t know whether you … More

The Art of Struggle: Why You Should Do Difficult Activities to Manage Your Anxiety

When left alone, anxiety becomes a monster. Obsession, ambition, and fear are always linked. The more ambitious you are, the … More

The Untraveled Road: How Killing My Dream Made Me Much Happier

Lately, I’ve been coming to terms with one of my major professional decisions. For years, I went back and forth … More

The Desire for More: Why Most Things Aren’t As Good or As Bad As They Appear and Why It Matters

We idealize success and demonize failure. People, sometimes, ask me how to stop obsessing over both, entering treatment distraught because … More

Developing Vision: How Our Fear of Introspection Prevents Us from Thriving

People often ask why they aren’t successful, wondering about the trait they’re missing, that others seemingly possess. And for most … More

Why Some People Can’t Accept Compliments: The Role of Cognitive Dissonance in Examining Self-Related Evidence

Have you ever been complimented and wondered if the praise was a lie? Did you think that the feedback was … More

The Self-Made Myth: How Our Biased Thinking about Luck Reduces Empathy and Compassion

“It takes more than skill to be a champion. It takes equal parts of talent, luck, work, and nerve.” -“Fats” … More

Journey to the Rainbow’s End: Understanding the Perfectionist’s Beliefs and Goals

In the recently released documentary, David Foster: Off the Record, David Foster’s daughter noted that Foster, a prominent musical producer, … More

Propelled by Trauma: The Dark Side of High Achievers

Trauma is a conquerer. It has a way of subduing one and keeping them in her captivity for a lifetime. … More