The Victim of Trauma: How Overcoming Tragedy Entails Being Both a Victim and a Survivor

As therapists, we often speak of beliefs and perspectives and their influence on our thoughts, feelings, and actions. Where both … More

No Form of Success Can Ever Make You Feel Good Enough: How Our Thoughts Distort Our Accomplishments

When we seek out success, we sometimes search for purity. The worst thing that a high achiever can hear is, … More

Addicted to ‘Wow’: Inside of the Mind of A Perfectionist

We think of addiction as entailing some sort of substance, whether a drug, alcohol, or even a video game that … More

All Roads Lead to Self-Love: How the Desire for Self-Esteem Permeates Most of What We Do

Reducing human complexity to any one particular source is usually fruitless and misleading; the most that we can do is … More

Goodbye, Neverland: Accepting Reality, Taking Responsibility, and Moving Forward

I was the most spoiled and entitled kid I knew, way more so than the average child. Not only did … More

Can I Ever Overcome Feeling I’m Not Good Enough?

Since no achievement is without its downside and each one can be criticized (luck and other people are always contributors) … More

Harboring Junk Values: How Our Unhealthy Goals Maintain Depression

I’m pretty sure most of you are sick of my articles on distorted thinking/beliefs by now, and I think I’ve … More

The Happiness We Miss While Chasing It

What Will Make Me Happy? When I was in my teens, I believed romantic love to be the answer. When … More

Our Deep Sense of Entitlement: Do We Prevent Ourselves From Succeeding?

How Important Am I? They tend to call millennials the entitled generation, noting how they (we) always want something for … More