Difficulties in Dating

I often mention that it’s so perplexing to me to live in NYC, which is full of all sorts of … More

An Existential Death-Blow to Narcissism: Defeating the Excessive Need to Feel Superior

Through ambition and greed, they rose. Through force and strength, they conquered. Through status and influence, they flourished. The great … More

Looking at The Wackness: How The Way We Think About The World Can Prevent Us From Seeing The Good in Our Lives

Ten years ago, a poignant film titled The Wackness was released. It chronicled the summer of a lonesome teenage boy named Luke … More

Choosing Life Over Death: Overcoming My Suicidal Thinking

Suicidal thoughts are multifaceted and can stem from a myriad of sources, but uniting all of them is the belief … More

Living in My Imagination: How Trauma Fosters an Unquenchable Desire for Idealized Love

Throughout our quests for the perfect mate, we frequently find ourselves fantasizing about what that mate would be like: we … More

Finding Meaning in Suffering: My Rebellion Against Cynicism

“We who lived in concentration camps can remember the men who walked through the huts comforting others, giving away their … More

Rejection and Failure: How We Learn and Can Unlearn to Be Afraid of Them

One of the major reasons why people come to see me for treatment is to help them overcome their fears … More

The Toxicity of Self-Esteem: Why It Never Works

A Better Way to Love Ourselves Self-esteem has always been a prominent concept throughout our lives. We were taught that … More

The Freedom of Logic: How Changing the Way You Think Can Make You Independent

“Findings from a multitude of research literatures converge on a single point: People are credulous creatures who find it very … More

How to Become Confident and Get Laid: The Self-Help Industry’s Perpetuation of The Disingenuous Man

I consistently find myself falling into the trap of evaluating other men based on the usual, and outdated, concept of … More