Why We Tend Not to Challenge Our Core Beliefs about the World and Ourselves

When I was an undergraduate student, my ancient philosophy professor told us: Don’t ever become satisfied; otherwise, you’ll become complacent. … More

I’m Not Enough: Why Feeling Like You’re Good Enough Shouldn’t Be Your Only Goal

“I hear what you’re saying, and I can see what I’ve done, but why don’t I feel it?” How many … More

Punishing Myself: Why We’re So Hard on Ourselves and How We Can Stop

Can you recall a time in your life when you let down someone whom you admired? When you did, what … More

The Hindsight Bias and Personalization: Why Our Minds Naturally Prefer Misery to Fear

The Hindsight Bias, according to Kendra Cherry, is “the tendency people have to view events as more predictable than they … More

The Myth of Sainthood: Why You and I Will Always Be Works-In-Progess

I’m a contradiction. To reduce my psyche to any particular set of traits is impossible, because I’m often one person … More

The False Beliefs of the Grass is Greener Syndrome: Why Settling Can Be Good for You

On the episode “Mind and the Matter” of The Twilight Zone, the protagonist, Archibald Beechcrot, a misanthrope, wills humanity’s disappearance. … More

Self-Sabotage and Negative Core Beliefs: How Our Thinking Saves Us From Experiencing Pain

“When it comes to love… there is nothing to “force my assent.” I have to give my assent before sufficient … More

Reconceptualizing Cognitive Behavioral Therapy: How Changing the Way We View Distorted Thinking Can Help Us Heal (Revised)

My clients, especially the heterosexual males, conceive of therapy as a training ground, as a means of discipline and mastery. … More

Why Psychotherapy Can’t, and Shouldn’t, Make You Happy

“While the daimonic (your dark emotions and impulses) cannot be said to be evil in itself, it confronts us with … More

In Defense of Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy and Against Depressive Realism

Words matter. When we’re happy, we’re more likely to uncritically internalize positive feedback; and when we’re sad, or depressed, more … More