In Defense of the Mainstream Understanding of Borderline Personality Disorder

People are obsessed with causes. And those causes may embody sought after justifications. In a recent article in Psyche about … More

Trauma and Toxic Masculinity

Culture and trauma can synthesize into an obsession with hyper-masculinity. Whether it’s Tony Soprano, any of James Cagney’s early portrayals, … More

Fostering Dignity: How Tyranny Creates People-Pleasing Behavior

Sometimes, you’re just someone who has nothing to say. The avoidant personality type is marked by extreme shyness, fear of … More

The Consolations of Psychotherapy: Why the Question of “Why Did This Happen to Me?” Doesn’t Make Sense

There is no why to suffering, only a how. How did it affect you? How did it change your outlook, … More

My Gift of Trauma: How Childhood Abandonment Shaped Me

If trauma can become a gift, first understanding it is imperative. Left on her own, with no one to look … More

Narcissistic Envy: Why Narcissists Abuse Their Victims

When you already believe you’re terrible and worthless, it’s easy to reinforce your self-conception. It’s common knowledge that bullies prey … More

Overcoming the Fear of Conflict: Why Standing Up to Narcissists and Bullies is Easier than You Believe

Most of us are terrified of conflicts. And much of our lives are spent avoiding them. If possible, we’ll end … More

Propelled by Trauma: The Dark Side of High Achievers

Trauma is a conquerer. It has a way of subduing one and keeping them in her captivity for a lifetime. … More

The Victim of Trauma: How Overcoming Tragedy Entails Being Both a Victim and a Survivor

As therapists, we often speak of beliefs and perspectives and their influence on our thoughts, feelings, and actions. Where both … More

Sometimes, You Have to Pick a Side: In Support of Black Lives Matter

Children see the world through a black and white lens, through which they perceive duality within the world, wherein good … More