Cultivating Both/And Thinking in Love: Can You Have Both Passion and Security?

People tend to believe that, at some point, they have to settle. To them, love is either fire and fury, … More

“If He Wanted to He Would”: Why Our Consolations about Rejection are Usually Unhelpful and Wrong

“If he/she wanted to he/she would” is the most overused and misguided phrase in consolation. By saying it, the person … More

Idealizing Romance: How Our Beliefs About Being Single, Being in Love, and Being Married Contribute to Codependency and Desperation

Interpretations are everything. Being single doesn’t simply mean that you aren’t in a romantic relationship; it often connotes much more. … More

If Dating Isn’t Working Out, Maybe You’re Just Self-Absorbed

People’s rigid expectations often make relationships, especially romantic ones, fairly difficult. In dating, there’s often a mismatch between one party, … More

Self-Sabotage in Dating: How We Erect the Barriers that Keep Love At Bay

A few years ago, I began a relationship with a girl who seemed interested in dating me, but asked if … More

Is Romantic Love Ever Worth the Risk of Heartache?: A Psychological Perspective

Amazingly, I’ve been blessed with the combination of idealism and pessimism. At one end, I fantasize about what the world, … More

A Fruitless Journey: How We Prevent Ourselves from Being Loved

The Avoidant Attachment Style and Its Effects on Our Ability to Love “Your task is not to seek for love, … More

The Art of Love-Bombing: How Our Need to Feel Special Causes Us to Fall Prey to Deception

Have you ever met someone you found attractive and envisioned what the rest of your life with that person would … More

I Wonder If You Noticed – A Poem

I wonder if you noticed My stare when I first noticed you I wonder if you noticed Our hands lingering … More

The Girl in the Red Dress – A Poem about Beauty and Loss

In a room, she walked in with an assertive gait The woman in a red dress, whose eyes radiate Who … More