How Our Philosophies of Love Become Barriers to It

“If he loves me, he’ll love me unconditionally.” “If she loves me, she’ll want to become the best version of … More

“If He Wanted to He Would”: Why Our Consolations about Rejection are Usually Unhelpful and Wrong

“If he/she wanted to he/she would” is the most overused and misguided phrase in consolation. By saying it, the person … More

Interpretations are everything. Being single doesn’t simply mean that you aren’t in a romantic relationship; it often connotes much more. … More

Whether you know it or not, philosophy affects all of your relationships and your thoughts about them. We often think … More

‘As above, so below’ is an adage often attributed to ancient Egyptian philosophy; it means that the micro-universe, our world, … More

A few years ago, I began a relationship with a girl who seemed interested in dating me, but asked if … More

Evidence can be tricky. We often think of science as a purely objective endeavor, supported by the analysis of an … More

Fear of Being Needy Most of the clients I see struggle with intimacy; they have what are called attachment difficulties. … More

The World of Dating I was going through a break-up when I was in therapy with Eileen. I told her … More

The following article was originally written for a blogger named The Bipolar Writer. This version is an extension of the original, … More