For When You’re Feeling Shame

Shame compounds. Of all of the negative emotions, shame is the worst. Anxiety subsides when we avert a threat. Sadness … More

A CBT Approach to Understanding and Dealing with Anger

Anger is a threat; anger results from threats; anger is righteous; anger is destructive; anger is defensive; anger is hopeful; … More

Do I Really Have to Love Myself Before I Can Love Others?: Against the Existential Ideal

Balancing what you can accomplish today with what you’ve done in the distant past is a challenging feat. All the … More

Living with Obsessive Compulsive Personality Disorder

Obsessive Compulsive Personality Disorder (OCPD) is often confused with Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD). OCD is more about rituals, mental or … More

The Downside of Pride: How We Use Ambition to Mask Vulnerability and Weakness

Ambition and vulnerability struggle to co-exist. The more successful and neurotic you are, the less likely you’re willing to exhibit … More

Battling the Demon of Idealism: Why You Don’t Have to Be Obsessed with Becoming Great

I’m not an idealist. I don’t consider myself to be an amazing therapist, writer, or human. To possess any of … More

Everyday Masochism: Why Are We Workaholics?

Masochism is self-discipline run amok. Human nature seems to reside in extremes. I don’t know why, but when we do … More

Still I Rise: Why Being an Underdog is Better than Being Born into Privilege

America loves underdogs. Think about your favorite films and consider what you loved most about those stories. For many of … More

Why We Tend Not to Challenge Our Core Beliefs about the World and Ourselves

When I was an undergraduate student, my ancient philosophy professor told us: Don’t ever become satisfied; otherwise, you’ll become complacent. … More

Taming Perfectionism: Why a Sense of Entitlement is Based on Fear

Have you ever heard of mental filtering? Do you recall any experiences of it? How is the mind able to … More