Needing to Be Loved: Why It’s Okay to Accept Your Basic Human Necessity

Fear of Being Needy Most of the clients I see struggle with intimacy; they have what are called attachment difficulties. … More

The Power We Give Away: The Importance of Defining Yourself

The World of Dating I was going through a break-up when I was in therapy with Eileen. I told her … More

Determined by My Past: How We Can Stop Trauma From Ruining Our Lives

How Defenses Shield Us From Harm All of us use psychological defenses; they protect us from unbearable truths about ourselves, … More

A Slave to My Self-Destruction: The Role Self-Esteem Plays in Our Toxic Behaviors

“Many people suffer from the fear of finding oneself alone, and so they don’t find themselves at all.” -Rollo May … More

Trapped in Vanity and Greed: How Our Zero-Sum Thinking Makes Us Miserable

Let the Competition Begin 6th century philosopher, Boethius, noted that life is a wheel of fortune. Sometimes, we’re up, and … More

A Fruitless Journey: How We Prevent Ourselves from Being Loved

The Avoidant Attachment Style and Its Effects on Our Ability to Love “Your task is not to seek for love, … More

Confessions of a Dreamer: The Weird Kid Within

When I was a kid, one of my teachers punished me for being weird; well, probably because my weirdness was … More

The Limits of Reason and, Thus, of Therapy

In order to protect ourselves from getting hurt, some of us fall into the trap of intellectualism. What I mean … More

Signs of Unhealthy Love: When It’s Time to Leave

All of us have our moments of insecurity. You probably recall that time you cyber-stalked an ex after a breakup … More

Anxiety and Assertiveness: Why It’s Okay to Say No

“Care about what other people think and you will always be their prisoner.” -Lao Tzu Why We Can’t Say No … More