Why Do I Always End Up in Toxic Relationships?: Understanding the Thought Patterns of Mistreated Partners

A girl I once knew, who was involved in a physically abuse relationship at some point in her past, told … More

Self-Sabotage in Dating: How We Erect the Barriers that Keep Love At Bay

A few years ago, I began a relationship with a girl who seemed interested in dating me, but asked if … More

Needing to Be Loved: Why It’s Okay to Accept Your Basic Human Necessity

Fear of Being Needy Most of the clients I see struggle with intimacy; they have what are called attachment difficulties. … More

The Power We Give Away: The Importance of Defining Yourself

The World of Dating I was going through a break-up when I was in therapy with Eileen. I told her … More

A Fruitless Journey: How We Prevent Ourselves from Being Loved

The Avoidant Attachment Style and Its Effects on Our Ability to Love “Your task is not to seek for love, … More

Saving My Inner Dreamer: How Our Expectations Make Us Sad

I wrote an article a while back about what it was like to be a dreamer, someone who constantly perceives … More

Confessions of a Dreamer: The Weird Kid Within

When I was a kid, one of my teachers punished me for being weird; well, probably because my weirdness was … More

The Limits of Reason and, Thus, of Therapy

In order to protect ourselves from getting hurt, some of us fall into the trap of intellectualism. What I mean … More

Signs of Unhealthy Love: When It’s Time to Leave

All of us have our moments of insecurity. You probably recall that time you cyber-stalked an ex after a breakup … More

Why Am I So Jealous?: Exploring the Link Between Self-Esteem and the Intolerance of Uncertainty

Why Do I Need Certainty? Since the beginning of time, there have been two existential certainties: death and the uncertainty … More