The Myth of Self-Love: Why You’ll Probably Never Learn to Love Yourself and Don’t Need to

When I was a kid, I wanted to become the best. As is typical for a child who’s bullied, and … More

Paralyzed by the Fear of Uncertainty: Beginning to Overcome Debilitating Self-Doubt

Anxiety is a bitch. And the beliefs behind it are even worse. When people struggle with Generalized Anxiety or Obsessive … More

Cognitive Grit: Why Resilience is More about Thinking than Doing and How to Develop It

Out of the various mental health related issues I’ve dealt with, rejection sensitivity has to be the most difficult. We’re … More

My OCD Story: The Emotional Costs and Benefits of Being Obsessive

My brain has a tendency to exaggerate. Sometimes, my mind idealizes and makes me believe that some goal I’m working … More

The Hopelessness of Complaining: Why We Excessively Complain and How to Stop

“Now if you know what you’re worth, then go out and get what you’re worth, but you gotta be willing … More

Punishing Myself: Why We’re So Hard on Ourselves and How We Can Stop

Can you recall a time in your life when you let down someone whom you admired? When you did, what … More

The Hindsight Bias and Personalization: Why Our Minds Naturally Prefer Misery to Fear

The Hindsight Bias, according to Kendra Cherry, is “the tendency people have to view events as more predictable than they … More

The Desire for More: Why Most Things Aren’t As Good or As Bad As They Appear and Why It Matters

We idealize success and demonize failure. People, sometimes, ask me how to stop obsessing over both, entering treatment distraught because … More

Coping with Rejection: Why Our Minds Weave Plausible, But Hurtful, Narratives

All of us have a natural tendency to personalize. We see the dyad and interpret it through a causal lens. … More

We Need to Stop Teaching People to Be the Bigger Person if They Don’t Want to Be

Most empaths struggle with too much empathy, not too little. Yet, since empathy is the new norm, they’re told that … More