Overcoming the Fear of Conflict: Why Standing Up to Narcissists and Bullies is Easier than You Believe

Most of us are terrified of conflicts. And much of our lives are spent avoiding them. If possible, we’ll end … More

Why the Strong Men Are Cowards

“Intolerance of ambiguity is the mark of an authoritarian personality.” -Theodor Adorno Most of the time, all of us are scared, but … More

Journey to the Rainbow’s End: Understanding the Perfectionist’s Beliefs and Goals

In the recently released documentary, David Foster: Off the Record, David Foster’s daughter noted that Foster, a prominent musical producer, … More

Propelled by Trauma: The Dark Side of High Achievers

Trauma is a conquerer. It has a way of subduing one and keeping them in her captivity for a lifetime. … More

Why Do I Have to Be Anyone?: My Musings on High Achievement and Cosmic Insignificance

The question on my mind lately is: Why Do I have to Be Anyone? If life is this temporary thing, … More

We Aren’t Unlovable if We Aren’t Loved

Childhood lays the foundation for self-esteem. Children reach out for comfort and affection when they’re scared, sad, and hurt, needing … More

Cinderella Man – A Poem about Love’s Substitution with Glory

Cinderella Man Striding down the hallway, with a championship in sight The boy enters the ring, to begin an arduous … More

Trapped in Vanity and Greed: How Our Zero-Sum Thinking Makes Us Miserable

Let the Competition Begin 6th century philosopher, Boethius, noted that life is a wheel of fortune. Sometimes, we’re up, and … More

Always about Me: Why It Doesn’t Make Sense to Take Anything Personally (Updated)

The other day, I helped a client begin to work through the prolonged pain he had experienced from bullying. In … More

The Art of Love-Bombing: How Our Need to Feel Special Causes Us to Fall Prey to Deception

Have you ever met someone you found attractive and envisioned what the rest of your life with that person would … More