I’m a contradiction. To reduce my psyche to any particular set of traits is impossible, because I’m often one person … More
Tag: Perfectionism
Why Some People Can’t Accept Compliments: The Role of Cognitive Dissonance in Examining Self-Related Evidence
Have you ever been complimented and wondered if the praise was a lie? Did you think that the feedback was … More
We’re All Hypocrites: How Our Unacknowledged Beliefs about Perfection and Success Make Us Depressed
We often tell ourselves one thing and do another. This common phenomenon, often referred to as hypocrisy, is shared by … More
Journey to the Rainbow’s End: Understanding the Perfectionist’s Beliefs and Goals
In the recently released documentary, David Foster: Off the Record, David Foster’s daughter noted that Foster, a prominent musical producer, … More
Propelled by Trauma: The Dark Side of High Achievers
Trauma is a conquerer. It has a way of subduing one and keeping them in her captivity for a lifetime. … More
The Victim of Trauma: How Overcoming Tragedy Entails Being Both a Victim and a Survivor
As therapists, we often speak of beliefs and perspectives and their influence on our thoughts, feelings, and actions. Where both … More
Am I a Bad Person?: Examining the Importance of Knowing the Difference Between Guilt and Shame
I once asked someone I knew what was likelier, that she happened to have possessed the most undesirable qualities or … More
Parenting While Broken: How Our Self-Treatment Can Influence Our Children
The main misconception of perfectionism is that it only stems from emotional and/or physical abuse and/or neglect. Sometimes, you can … More
No Form of Success Can Ever Make You Feel Good Enough: How Our Thoughts Distort Our Accomplishments
When we seek out success, we sometimes search for purity. The worst thing that a high achiever can hear is, … More
The Jaws of Certainty: How Our Low Self-Esteem Pushes Love Away
Evidence can be tricky. We often think of science as a purely objective endeavor, supported by the analysis of an … More