Parenting While Broken: How Our Self-Treatment Can Influence Our Children

The main misconception of perfectionism is that it only stems from emotional and/or physical abuse and/or neglect. Sometimes, you can … More

No Form of Success Can Ever Make You Feel Good Enough: How Our Thoughts Distort Our Accomplishments

When we seek out success, we sometimes search for purity. The worst thing that a high achiever can hear is, … More

The Jaws of Certainty: How Our Low Self-Esteem Pushes Love Away

Evidence can be tricky. We often think of science as a purely objective endeavor, supported by the analysis of an … More

Addicted to ‘Wow’: Inside of the Mind of a Perfectionist

We think of addiction as entailing some sort of substance, whether a drug, alcohol, or even a video game that … More

Choosing Authenticity Over Perfection: Examining the Consequences of Our Values

All of have bad coping mechanisms which stem from false beliefs of their utility. Recall the time when you believed … More

Determined by My Past: How We Can Stop Trauma From Ruining Our Lives

How Defenses Shield Us From Harm All of us use psychological defenses; they protect us from unbearable truths about ourselves, … More

A Fruitless Journey: How We Prevent Ourselves from Being Loved

The Avoidant Attachment Style and Its Effects on Our Ability to Love “Your task is not to seek for love, … More

Can I Ever Overcome Feeling I’m Not Good Enough?

Since no achievement is without its downside and each one can be criticized (luck and other people are always contributors) … More

Learning to Accept Criticism: The Difference Between the Fixed and Growth Mindsets

Criticism is difficult for most. Because of the ways our minds work, we’re prone to distort our images of ourselves … More

Social Anxiety and Social Isolation: How Perfectionism Turns Us Into Recluses

I’ve been writing this blog for over a year. What I love most about it is that it gives me … More