Fear of Being Needy Most of the clients I see struggle with intimacy; they have what are called attachment difficulties. … More
Tag: Trauma
When Ure Heart Turns Cold: Reclaiming Your Life After Trauma
“When ure heart turns cold, it causes your soul 2 freeze Spreads throughout your spirit, like a ruthless feeling disease” … More
The Ethics of Violence: Why Trauma Doesn’t Excuse Brutality
In a 1984 conversation, the notable black author and social critic, James Baldwin, and black feminist writer and poet, Audre … More
Determined by My Past: How We Can Stop Trauma From Ruining Our Lives
How Defenses Shield Us From Harm All of us use psychological defenses; they protect us from unbearable truths about ourselves, … More
To Hell and Back: My Journey Through Therapy
The following article was originally written for a blogger named The Bipolar Writer. This version is an extension of the original, … More
Seeking the Superheroes Within: How We Vanquish Our Traumatic Pasts
“Like superheroes, supernormals dodge bullets and leap over tall buildings in their way when so many other people around them—even … More
Searching for Love in the Shadowlands
“The pain now is part of the happiness then; that’s the deal.” -C.S. Lewis Around this time last year, I … More
Cinderella Man – A Poem about Love’s Substitution with Glory
Cinderella Man Striding down the hallway, with a championship in sight The boy enters the ring, to begin an arduous … More
A Fruitless Journey: How We Prevent Ourselves from Being Loved
The Avoidant Attachment Style and Its Effects on Our Ability to Love “Your task is not to seek for love, … More
Always about Me: Why It Doesn’t Make Sense to Take Anything Personally (Updated)
The other day, I helped a client begin to work through the prolonged pain he had experienced from bullying. In … More
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