Saving My Inner Dreamer: How Our Expectations Make Us Sad

I wrote an article a while back about what it was like to be a dreamer, someone who constantly perceives … More

The Standard of Masculinity: Struggling with Intimacy and Shame

We could have two sets of values: one on the surface of our minds, and the other below it. Cognitive … More

Self-Acceptance and Self-Improvement: Figuring Out What to Throw Away and What to Keep

Most of us struggle, to one degree or another, with accepting ourselves. So, we do one of three things: We … More

Confessions of a Dreamer: The Weird Kid Within

When I was a kid, one of my teachers punished me for being weird; well, probably because my weirdness was … More

Transcending Death Terror Through Self-Actualization: A Follow-Up to Our Latest Podcast Episode

On the recent episode of Seize The Moment Podcast, Alen and I explored what it means to become self-actualized and … More

The Limits of Reason and, Thus, of Therapy

In order to protect ourselves from getting hurt, some of us fall into the trap of intellectualism. What I mean … More

Can We Learn to Make Ourselves Happy?: The Role Helicopter Parenting Plays in Stifling Our Growth

“Fortune sometimes favors villains and turns against good people. That’s why our happiness should depend on our own decisions, not … More

Signs of Unhealthy Love: When It’s Time to Leave

All of us have our moments of insecurity. You probably recall that time you cyber-stalked an ex after a breakup … More

Anxiety and Assertiveness: Why It’s Okay to Say No

“Care about what other people think and you will always be their prisoner.” -Lao Tzu Why We Can’t Say No … More

Why Am I So Jealous?: Exploring the Link Between Self-Esteem and the Intolerance of Uncertainty

Why Do I Need Certainty? Since the beginning of time, there have been two existential certainties: death and the uncertainty … More