Rejection and Failure: How We Learn and Can Unlearn to Be Afraid of Them

One of the major reasons why people come to see me for treatment is to help them overcome their fears … More

Searching for Perfection: Why We Won’t Allow Ourselves to Fall in Love

There’s an old adage, a cliché if you will, which tells us that as long as we can’t love ourselves, … More

The Freedom of Logic: How Changing the Way You Think Can Make You Independent

“Findings from a multitude of research literatures converge on a single point: People are credulous creatures who find it very … More

The Trap of the Self-Assured Don Juan

Why The Kind and Confident Don Juan You’re Looking For Doesn’t Exist “Fake it til you make it” is a … More

Finding a Therapist: What You Need to Know

I’ve decided to write a blog post in the hope of helping people to find a psychotherapist that fits them … More

Big Black Hole – A Poem about Depression

Big black hole You’re the only one I truly know And as I yearn for life’s glow You continue to … More

Culture is Not Your Friend

“The belief that “honor demands it” promotes not only honor suicide, but “honor killings” of family members as well. The … More

Strategies for Alleviating the Terror of Death: How to Accept that You’re Going to Die (Updated Text and Link)

I recently presented my blog, My Best Friend, Death, at a meetup of professional writers, and received a bunch of questions … More

You’ll Never Know How Much You Mean to Me – A Poem about the Relationships which Heal Us

You’ll never know how much you mean to me Your words are forever burned into my memory You’ll never know … More

Thinking in Black and White: Sometimes, You Can Have Your Cake and Eat it, Too

We often find ourselves thinking in all or nothing terms, meaning that, at times, we erroneously believe that things have … More