Propelled by Trauma: The Dark Side of High Achievers

Trauma is a conquerer. It has a way of subduing one and keeping them in her captivity for a lifetime. … More

Genuine Humility: Why Accepting Our Flaws Also Requires a Cultural Shift

In common language, humility is defined as being the state of having a low assessment of one’s value. Considered to … More

The Victim of Trauma: How Overcoming Tragedy Entails Being Both a Victim and a Survivor

As therapists, we often speak of beliefs and perspectives and their influence on our thoughts, feelings, and actions. Where both … More

Why Do I Always End Up in Toxic Relationships?: Understanding the Thought Patterns of Mistreated Partners

A girl I once knew, who was involved in a physically abuse relationship at some point in her past, told … More

Am I a Bad Person?: Examining the Importance of Knowing the Difference Between Guilt and Shame

I once asked someone I knew what was likelier, that she happened to have possessed the most undesirable qualities or … More

Parenting While Broken: How Our Self-Treatment Can Influence Our Children

The main misconception of perfectionism is that it only stems from emotional and/or physical abuse and/or neglect. Sometimes, you can … More

Reconceptualizing Cognitive Behavioral Therapy: How Changing the Way We View Distorted Thinking Can Help Us Heal (Revised)

Many clients, especially the heterosexual males, conceive of therapy as a training ground, as a means of discipline and mastery. … More

Trans Rights are Human Rights: Why Medicare for All Has to Include Gender Confirmation Surgery

We’ve placed ourselves in a significant cultural moment. Over the past few weeks, in various states, people have been marching … More

Unspoken Feelings: Masculinity and Stifled Expression

I had a session over the weekend with a client whose brother was diagnosed with leukemia. In it, she told … More

Why Do I Have to Be Anyone?: My Musings on High Achievement and Cosmic Insignificance

The question on my mind lately is: Why Do I have to Be Anyone? If life is this temporary thing, … More