If maturity is anything, it’s a mastery of one’s emotions. The other day, someone told me a story about how…
Hero Worship As Self-Hatred: How Admiration Can Reveal Your Self-Esteem
“I wish people would love everybody else the way they love me. It would be a better world.” -Muhammed Ali…
Why Psychotherapy Can’t, and Shouldn’t, Make You Happy
“While the daimonic (your dark emotions and impulses) cannot be said to be evil in itself, it confronts us with…
Self-Sabotage in Dating: How We Erect the Barriers that Keep Love At Bay
A few years ago, I began a relationship with a girl who seemed interested in dating me, but asked if…
You’re Both a Success and a Failure: How You Can Begin to Unlearn Self-Blame and Abuse
Life is often viewed as a series of attempts and successes and failures, which we allow to define us throughout…
The Power of Forgiveness in Stoic Philosophy and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy
The Stoic philosopher, Seneca, wrote: “The spirit ought to be brought up for examination daily… I pass the whole day…
The Jaws of Certainty: How Our Low Self-Esteem Pushes Love Away
Evidence can be tricky. We often think of science as a purely objective endeavor, supported by the analysis of an…
Facing the Internal Mirror of COVID-19: Why We Shouldn’t Be Afraid of Self-Isolation
Existential dread is defined as: the fear of the groundlessness beneath us. In essence, it’s the fear of freedom, of…
Addicted to ‘Wow’: Inside of the Mind of a Perfectionist
We think of addiction as entailing some sort of substance, whether a drug, alcohol, or even a video game that…
Bursting the Bubble of Inadequacy: Shifting Our Distorted Beliefs to Love Ourselves
We fear our thoughts more so than reality. The cognitive model of psychotherapy posits that our ideas about ourselves, others,…
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