Throughout our quests for the perfect mate, we frequently find ourselves fantasizing about what that mate would be like: we…
Finding Meaning in Suffering: My Rebellion Against Cynicism
“We who lived in concentration camps can remember the men who walked through the huts comforting others, giving away their…
Rejection and Failure: How We Learn and Can Unlearn to Be Afraid of Them
One of the major reasons why people come to see me for treatment is to help them overcome their fears…
Dear Men, Vulnerability is Necessary for Your Mental Health (Revised)
Most of us were saddened this past week to hear the news of Anthony Bourdain’s passing, not only because he…
Searching for Perfection: Why We Won’t Allow Ourselves to Fall in Love
There’s an old adage, a cliché if you will, which tells us that as long as we can’t love ourselves,…
The Freedom of Logic: How Changing the Way You Think Can Make You Independent
“Findings from a multitude of research literatures converge on a single point: People are credulous creatures who find it very…
How to Become Confident and Get Laid: The Self-Help Industry’s Perpetuation of the Disingenuous Man
I consistently find myself falling into the trap of evaluating other men based on the usual, and outdated, concept of…
Barriers to Love and Intimacy
Have you ever found yourself in the midst of a passionate love affair, wanting to spend each minute and every…
Touched by an Angel – A Poem about Grief
The lives that come are the ones that go And some belong to the kindest people we know Among us…
The Man Who Has It All – A Poem about the Consequences of Rejecting Love
Expensive cars, mansions, and boats he’s had To his children a stranger, even though they call him dad Influence and…
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