We Aren’t Unlovable if We Aren’t Loved

Childhood lays the foundation for self-esteem. Children reach out for comfort and affection when they’re scared, sad, and hurt, needing … More

All Roads Lead to Self-Love: How the Desire for Self-Esteem Permeates Most of What We Do

Reducing human complexity to any one particular source is usually fruitless and misleading; the most that we can do is … More

In Defense of Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy and Against Depressive Realism

Words matter. When we’re happy, we’re more likely to uncritically internalize positive feedback; and when we’re sad, or depressed, more … More

Choosing Authenticity Over Perfection: Examining the Consequences of Our Values

All of have bad coping mechanisms which stem from false beliefs of their utility. Recall the time when you believed … More

Blurred Lines: How Mental Illness and Mental Health are Closer Than You Believe and Why It Matters

I’ve had several discussions with people that I thought would be good to disclose here, as they’re pertinent to earlier … More

Goodbye, Neverland: Accepting Reality, Taking Responsibility, and Moving Forward

I was the most spoiled and entitled kid I knew, way more so than the average child. Not only did … More

Conquering Fears of Failure and Rejection Through Authenticity

About a year ago, I wrote an article on trauma that focused on defining oneself by resilience. In it, I … More

Why Do We Create?: Exploring the Link Between Creativity and Intimacy

“The human being cannot live in a condition of emptiness for very long: if he is not growing toward something, … More

Needing to Be Loved: Why It’s Okay to Accept Your Basic Human Necessity

Fear of Being Needy Most of the clients I see struggle with intimacy; they have what are called attachment difficulties. … More

The Power We Give Away: The Importance of Defining Yourself

The World of Dating I was going through a break-up when I was in therapy with Eileen. I told her … More