Determined by My Past: How We Can Stop Trauma From Ruining Our Lives

How Defenses Shield Us From Harm All of us use psychological defenses; they protect us from unbearable truths about ourselves, … More

Seeking the Superheroes Within: How We Vanquish Our Traumatic Pasts

“Like superheroes, supernormals dodge bullets and leap over tall buildings in their way when so many other people around them—even … More

Judgment is Ignorance: How You Can Know So Much and Still Be Stupid

I think I can safely admit that, at times, I am a moron, and I sincerely mean that. Although my … More

Forever an Imposter and Okay With It

Facing the Imposter Within Even if you don’t know what imposter syndrome is, there’s a good chance you have it. … More

Is Romantic Love Ever Worth the Risk of Heartache?: A Psychological Perspective

Amazingly, I’ve been blessed with the combination of idealism and pessimism. At one end, I fantasize about what the world, … More

Cinderella Man – A Poem about Love’s Substitution with Glory

Cinderella Man Striding down the hallway, with a championship in sight The boy enters the ring, to begin an arduous … More

Shame and Guilt: Necessities for Character; Catalysts for Change

Character is founded on honesty, humility, agreeableness, helpfulness, assertiveness, courage, resilience, and regret.

Trapped in Vanity and Greed: How Our Zero-Sum Thinking Makes Us Miserable

Let the Competition Begin 6th century philosopher, Boethius, noted that life is a wheel of fortune. Sometimes, we’re up, and … More

Always about Me: Why It Doesn’t Make Sense to Take Anything Personally (Updated)

The other day, I helped a client begin to work through the prolonged pain he had experienced from bullying. In … More

Can I Ever Overcome Feeling I’m Not Good Enough?

Since no achievement is without its downside and each one can be criticized (luck and other people are always contributors) … More