Self-Esteem and Sex Addiction: How Men Use Pornography and Womanizing to Feel Good about Themselves

I frequently write blog posts about the effects of our beliefs on our thoughts, feelings, and actions, exploring the links … More

Body Positivity: How Our Culture Makes It Impossible for Us to Love Ourselves

The other day, I watched, what for some reason was the highly controversial film, I Feel Pretty. I liked it … More

A Thought Experiment to Deal with Jealousy

In a highly competitive environment, we tend to struggle with self-esteem. We compare ourselves to one another, fostering resentment and … More

The Need for Self-Compassion (Revised)

Self-Esteem vs Self-Compassion The idea of self-esteem gained prominence in the 80’s. It encompassed a great need to get children … More

It’s the Relationship that Heals

So many of the qualities of the work of psychotherapy fascinate me: the inherent intimacy, its progress, the intricacies of … More

Can I Ever Change?: Exploring the Factors that Foster Growth

“You think your pain and your heartbreak are unprecedented in the history of the world, but then you read… And … More

My Most Profound Revelation – How I Was Contributing to Maintaining My Depression

For those of you reading this post, I want you to know that it isn’t empirical, being based purely on … More

Fostering Self-Acceptance: The Only One Who Can Control How You Feel about You is You

The fear of rejection is prevalent among many men, especially those living in New York City, particularly because men are … More

Rejection and Failure: How We Learn and Can Unlearn to Be Afraid of Them

One of the major reasons why people come to see me for treatment is to help them overcome their fears … More

Searching for Perfection: Why We Won’t Allow Ourselves to Fall in Love

There’s an old adage, a cliché if you will, which tells us that as long as we can’t love ourselves, … More