Daniel Kahneman, the notable psychologist, warned that if we put pressure on another to do what we want them to, … More
Tag: Depression
Why Psychotherapy Can’t, and Shouldn’t, Make You Happy
“While the daimonic (your dark emotions and impulses) cannot be said to be evil in itself, it confronts us with … More
Self-Sabotage in Dating: How We Erect the Barriers that Keep Love At Bay
A few years ago, I began a relationship with a girl who seemed interested in dating me, but asked if … More
You’re Both a Success and a Failure: How You Can Begin to Unlearn Self-Blame and Abuse
Life is often viewed as a series of attempts and successes and failures, which we allow to define us throughout … More
The Power of Forgiveness in Stoic Philosophy and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy
The Stoic philosopher, Seneca, wrote: “The spirit ought to be brought up for examination daily… I pass the whole day … More
The Jaws of Certainty: How Our Low Self-Esteem Pushes Love Away
Evidence can be tricky. We often think of science as a purely objective endeavor, supported by the analysis of an … More
Facing the Internal Mirror of COVID-19: Why We Shouldn’t Be Afraid of Self-Isolation
Existential dread is defined as: the fear of the groundlessness beneath us. In essence, it’s the fear of freedom, of … More
Addicted to ‘Wow’: Inside of the Mind of a Perfectionist
We think of addiction as entailing some sort of substance, whether a drug, alcohol, or even a video game that … More
Bursting the Bubble of Inadequacy: Shifting Our Distorted Beliefs to Love Ourselves
We fear our thoughts more so than reality. The cognitive model of psychotherapy posits that our ideas about ourselves, others, … More
In Defense of Anger and Pride: How Negative Emotions Can Be Healthy
Anger and pride, in most religious traditions, are conceived of as engendering vices, corrosive feelings that cause us to react … More
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