Trapped in Vanity and Greed: How Our Zero-Sum Thinking Makes Us Miserable

Let the Competition Begin 6th century philosopher, Boethius, noted that life is a wheel of fortune. Sometimes, we’re up, and … More

A Fruitless Journey: How We Prevent Ourselves from Being Loved

The Avoidant Attachment Style and Its Effects on Our Ability to Love “Your task is not to seek for love, … More

Always about Me: Why It Doesn’t Make Sense to Take Anything Personally (Updated)

The other day, I helped a client begin to work through the prolonged pain he had experienced from bullying. In … More

Can I Ever Overcome Feeling I’m Not Good Enough?

Since no achievement is without its downside and each one can be criticized (luck and other people are always contributors) … More

Harboring Junk Values: How Our Unhealthy Goals Maintain Depression

I’m pretty sure most of you are sick of my articles on distorted thinking/beliefs by now, and I think I’ve … More

Learning to Accept Criticism: The Difference Between the Fixed and Growth Mindsets

Criticism is difficult for most. Because of the ways our minds work, we’re prone to distort our images of ourselves … More

Social Anxiety and Social Isolation: How Perfectionism Turns Us Into Recluses

I’ve been writing this blog for over a year. What I love most about it is that it gives me … More

Saving My Inner Dreamer: How Our Expectations Make Us Sad

I wrote an article a while back about what it was like to be a dreamer, someone who constantly perceives … More

The Standard of Masculinity: Struggling with Intimacy and Shame

We could have two sets of values: one on the surface of our minds, and the other below it. Cognitive … More

Nothing Left to Prove: Battling Back Against Needing to Be the Best

Much of my life encompasses the strong desire to prove myself. I don’t know whether or not I’m highly competitive … More