“The pain now is part of the happiness then; that’s the deal.” -C.S. Lewis Around this time last year, I…
Is Romantic Love Ever Worth the Risk of Heartache?: A Psychological Perspective
Amazingly, I’ve been blessed with the combination of idealism and pessimism. At one end, I fantasize about what the world,…
Cinderella Man – A Poem about Love’s Substitution with Glory
Cinderella Man Striding down the hallway, with a championship in sight The boy enters the ring, to begin an arduous…
Shame and Guilt: Necessities for Character; Catalysts for Change
Character is founded on honesty, humility, agreeableness, helpfulness, assertiveness, courage, resilience, and regret.
Trapped in Vanity and Greed: How Our Zero-Sum Thinking Makes Us Miserable
Let the Competition Begin 6th century philosopher, Boethius, noted that life is a wheel of fortune. Sometimes, we’re up, and…
A Fruitless Journey: How We Prevent Ourselves from Being Loved
The Avoidant Attachment Style and Its Effects on Our Ability to Love “Your task is not to seek for love,…
Always about Me: Why It Doesn’t Make Sense to Take Anything Personally (Updated)
The other day, I helped a client begin to work through the prolonged pain he had experienced from bullying. In…
Can I Ever Overcome Feeling I’m Not Good Enough?
Since no achievement is without its downside and each one can be criticized (luck and other people are always contributors)…
Harboring Junk Values: How Our Unhealthy Goals Maintain Depression
I’m pretty sure most of you are sick of my articles on distorted thinking/beliefs by now, and I think I’ve…
Learning to Accept Criticism: The Difference Between the Fixed and Growth Mindsets
Criticism is difficult for most. Because of the ways our minds work, we’re prone to distort our images of ourselves…
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