Let the Competition Begin 6th century philosopher, Boethius, noted that life is a wheel of fortune. Sometimes, we’re up, and…
A Fruitless Journey: How We Prevent Ourselves from Being Loved
The Avoidant Attachment Style and Its Effects on Our Ability to Love “Your task is not to seek for love,…
Always about Me: Why It Doesn’t Make Sense to Take Anything Personally (Updated)
The other day, I helped a client begin to work through the prolonged pain he had experienced from bullying. In…
Can I Ever Overcome Feeling I’m Not Good Enough?
Since no achievement is without its downside and each one can be criticized (luck and other people are always contributors)…
Harboring Junk Values: How Our Unhealthy Goals Maintain Depression
I’m pretty sure most of you are sick of my articles on distorted thinking/beliefs by now, and I think I’ve…
Learning to Accept Criticism: The Difference Between the Fixed and Growth Mindsets
Criticism is difficult for most. Because of the ways our minds work, we’re prone to distort our images of ourselves…
Social Anxiety and Social Isolation: How Perfectionism Turns Us Into Recluses
I’ve been writing this blog for over a year. What I love most about it is that it gives me…
Saving My Inner Dreamer: How Our Expectations Make Us Sad
I wrote an article a while back about what it was like to be a dreamer, someone who constantly perceives…
The Standard of Masculinity: Struggling with Intimacy and Shame
We could have two sets of values: one on the surface of our minds, and the other below it. Cognitive…
Nothing Left to Prove: Battling Back Against Needing to Be the Best
Much of my life encompasses the strong desire to prove myself. I don’t know whether or not I’m highly competitive…
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